Geriatrics and Anger Management

Colleagues,
I am presently dealing with the care of my 97 year old father. I recently placed him in a skilled nursing facility and he is extremely upset with me. I have in his words " took over his life, stole his money, keep him from going places he wants to go and I am not the daughter he thought I was." I take quite a bit of this verbal harassment but eventually I blow up and react to his assessment of the situation. I physically was not able to care for him in his home or mine. I do not feel guilty about the placement but about losing control of my anger and reacting to his.

Comments or suggestions anyone?